The truth is, we do have the power. We can realize affective change because every second of every day, we create our own reality.
 
The first step in making change is accepting responsibility. As individual aspects of God, we are powerful creators! We may not want to be responsible for 100 percent of what happens in our lives, but it is a universal truth that our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and actions shape the world around us. We see what is inside ourselves. And, we can learn from our negative experiences as easily as we can from our positive ones.
 

When having an argument with your loved one, for example, rather than project blame on one another, choose to see the perfection in the argument you created. Consider how you might benefit from the experience. At first, it may seem difficult to do this, but this first step can empower you to change not only your perception of what has taken place, but the outcome as well.
 
It is often judgment that clouds our ability to create what we truly desire. We might judge our partner for not being a better communicator, when in fact, it’s our own inability to express our wants and needs that fuels our anger and frustration. When we can hold ourselves in love and compassion, the judgment of both ourselves and the other person can easily and quietly slip away.
 
In our careers, it may be fear – perhaps of success or of change – that blocks us from fully manifesting that which we desire. When we can identify the first bit of why we’re playing the victim, we can further examine how we’re standing on our own hose and keeping our dreams from flowing.
 
Erroneous beliefs, such as “I’m not good enough to have all I want” can also hamper your ability to manifest your desires. When you hold this vibration you will attract to you people of the same vibration, which means that as you blame others for not “allowing” you have all that you desire, you will draw into your life these same types of individuals who engage in abuse or unwanted behavior. 
 
In any particular situation, you may feel that another person, place or thing is doing something to you, but the higher conscious truth would be to look at why you attracted this situation into your life and determine what lesson can be gleamed from it.
 
At first it may seem difficult to remember this approach when you’re in the heat of an argument or experiencing a frustrating situation, but the more you practice this approach, the more natural it will become. Knowing that you create your reality – including your thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, feelings, reactions and actions – is self-empowering. Knowing that only you can change whatever you create in your reality is being self-empowered.